What if I am just NOT motivated?

September 18, 2008

I have gone through some major life changes in the last few months and I myself have been extremely exhausted–sleeping 10-11 hours every night and still having no energy!  I was so UN motivated and tired to the point of wondering if it was mild depression!  I want to share my story with you for two reasons.  First, I am human too and feel ALL the same things you go through to the extent of my experience.  It’s always amazing to me to hear what clients think I am “like”. I am not super human. Secondly, through my pain and suffering, I hope to provide some hope, insight and maybe a new perspective on your own journey. I also want you to know that I truly understand.

As some if not most of you know, I got married in early August.  In the few months prior to the wedding, I was on “super overdrive” trying to get all details taken care of and to help successfully fund our event. I had a wedding planner (who was great) and that did help but the stress of this undertaking especially when we did it as a destination wedding was HUGE- more than I thought.  Well, more than I was aware at the time.

The wedding was fabulous and the wedding day was stress free thanks to all this planning! On our honeymoon, we got a call from Jeanne Peters who shared with us a “healer” named Ken that creates and works with flower essences.  Jeanne had encouraged us to have a session with him if we could before we left the island.  And we did.

To keep it short and simple, my reading was one of the deepest and intense readings he had ever done.  He said it 4 times in the 45 minutes we spent focused on me. I think he was relieved when my reading was over because he wasn’t used to delivering such powerful news.  Most flower essence readings are “kinda nice” as he described it.

The gist of my reading had to do with very early patterns growing up that I developed to compensate for something I didn’t want to feel.  There has been a feeling for 30+ years that I have NOT allowed myself to feel!  The flower essences were suppose to bring those up in order to balance them and dissolve them.

Let’s just say that for the past few weeks, since returning from the wedding, I have been not motivated, exhausted, depressed, and physically weak.   This phase went on for 3-4 weeks!!  ( I feel better now)  If I didn’t have to leave the house, I wouldn’t.  I even cancelled all my appointments one day because I was immobilized and my body felt heavy and weak.  Even going for a walk would get me in my target heart rate zone!  Just WALKING!  I saw physical effects of my emotions.  I had plenty of rest, I ate fairly well (I am still gluten free) so the only thing it could be was emotional.

Wow.  What do you do when you feel this way?  I had no idea.  Normally, I just talk myself out of it! And choosing your thoughts is how to gain control of your life but I was doing it to AVOID feeling what I felt.  And so the feelings would get “swept under the rug” so to speak and have built up over my life time.

So what if you are not motivated?  I wasn’t.  But what I was- was curious as to WHY.  Of course I have the desire to be as healthy and as fit as I can.  I didn’t like that I wasn’t working out.  I didn’t like feeling exhausted.  But just like a detox, I came to understand what was going on with me to except this”phase”.

Had Ken NOT explained that the emotions would be triggered, I may have not taken the whole prescribed bottle.  But I knew to expect a detox of sorts.  I also while really IN this, made peace with myself, forgave myself and tried to be as loving as I could.  And then it passed.  I didn’t fight it.

For some people, feeling unmotivated is the excuse to stay in that stage longer than you need to.  It could be fear.  Fear of failure.  Fear of success. Fear of lack of support or fear of the unknown.

What is the underlying reason of your lack of motivation?  I believe once you can pinpoint that– it dissolves.

For all the ladies who have made it to the end of this story, Jeanne Peters Rd and I are hosting a women’s only workshop called LOVE YOUR BODY.  It’s happening November 7-9th, 2008.  If you would like to get to the bottom of your lack of motivation or any other feeling that is stopping you from attaining the health and body YOU deserve, call or email to sign up.  We’d love to help you transform your relationship with YOUR body.

Written by JJ Flizanes, Director of Invisible Fitness

800 571 5722



I have found the fountain of youth!

January 4, 2008

Dear JJ,

I want to share a conversation I had last week with a new acquaintance. I said my workouts with you had helped change my life! She could only say, ‘”I can’t afford her”; I have no time I am so busy building my business. I just can’t spend this money right now.”

I said, “Are you thinking that JJ’s workout is about just moving your muscles?” For me personally, I experience JJ as a life coach. She shows you how to heal yourself. She shows you how to get stronger. These workouts have changed my workouts from pain to healing. Through these exercises, JJ explains how and why you’re doing every movement a certain way.

JJ is love. She is very dedicated to helping you. I am learning how to eat and make better choices. I feel like I am learning HOW to take care of myself, since I started working with JJ. It has been a better way to take care of myself because she has given me tools to work with like my heart monitor, proper form, and tips for preparing to walk to avoid my reoccurring shin splints!

You get into work you didn’t even know you were capable of! The instruction becomes so fluid your brain / body connection starts cooperating!

But I didn’t realize all this at once. It was my friends and family who started asking me what was I doing differently. I was changing right before their eyes and my attitude and moods had improved so much even my boss took me aside to ask what I was doing. I really was taken off guard. All I could do was smile and tell them about JJ.

She is a very loving and gentle person. JJ makes me feel she cares and she is full of good information. She understands women’s bodies. She understands nutrition. JJ is a good listener. JJ and Jeanne Peters work together and I was fortunate to find them both.

I was 60 when we started working out this past year. My first fear was that I was too old to get results. Every workout for me ended in pain. My knee and hip joints hurt most of all before I started working with JJ.

JJ knows the mind body spirit connection and that is way true healing can take place. And you know the law of attraction and that we are all one. It is great to have a person like this in your corner. We all need a coach to put it all together.

The most frequent comment I hear is that I now look younger. Did I find the fountain of youth? I believe I did.

Sharon Gelafio


Why you should NOT make a New Year’s resolution for fitness!

January 4, 2008

How many times have you said “My resolution for this year is to lose weight?” Or “eat better” Or any one of the many ways you could frame taking better care of your fitness or health?


And how many people KEEP that? The fitness and diet industry knows that millions of people make that resolution- it’s the biggest season of the financial year for us!


But then what happens? January people are gung ho and join a gym, buy the running shoes, set the clock earlier to get the workout in and start making healthier food choices.


This usually lasts 2-4 weeks. Once February rolls around and after you’ve missed a few workouts, had an extra dessert a few nights and partied it up at the Super bowl party– a lot of people throw in the towel.


They expect to see results fast. They make BIG changes quickly and find it hard to keep them up after a few weeks.


The habit is to say you want to lose weight or get healthy. Most people think that means they will put 15% effort into it daily and the rest of their life doesn’t need to shift.


Changing your body means changing your life. You eat 2-6 times a day. Every day you get up and everyday you go to sleep. The defining factor in changing your body and health for good is what you believe and therefore how you act- all the time.


What do you tell yourself before you eat? What do you tell yourself about working out?Do you justify putting everyone else and your work before you? If you think adding exercise and “trying” to be more conscious of food is going to work in the long run, you have probably been making a new year’s resolution about this for many years-unsuccessfully.


So what do you do?


1. If you are not ready to change your life, one step at a time, then I would reframe your resolution. You set yourself up to fail by setting such a big goal without being willing to make the necessary shifts to support it.

2. Change one thing at a time and do not expect miraculous results quickly.

3. And get some help. I’d suggest a fitness/life coach over a trainer or a trainer that coaches so you can start to analyze what it is you believe and what limiting beliefs you have that keep you where you are. If you have made this resolution for more than 3 years and you are still not at your goal, it’s time to get some help.



We offer fitness/life coaching. We believe that is the way to achieve lasting results.Having a trainer is nice. Most people work hard with someone there. But the pitfall is how you behave when they aren’t there. We want to make you accountable to yourself first (as well as us) and set you up with the tools to support you forever.



Written by J.J. Flizanes, Director of Invisible Fitness. 800 571 5722, www.invisiblefitness.com

Top 10 Fitness Tips for Success!

December 13, 2007

  1. Stop stepping on the scale. Do it ONCE and then put it away for at least the entire month- or 2. Scales throw off your emotions and give you feedback that is inaccurate to what you are looking for. It’s not worth the upset and it’s a narrow focus. I have clients on the 90 Day Health and Body Makeover weight in at the beginning and then commit to not stepping on the scale at all for 3 months.
  2. Start logging your food. Most of us do not really pay attention to what we eat so we are “shocked” when we gain weight, even on an exercise program. Logging your food will also bring conscious awareness to how you feed yourself. This awareness can help you change your patterns and get you to your goals. Carry a note pad in your purse or car so you can log your meals in a timely manner after you finish them so you do not forget. If you wait til the end of the day, the task feels more overwhelming and you’re likely to forget something.
  3. Schedule your workouts. Put them on the calendar or in your palm pilot or blackberry just like any other meeting or event. If you do not make time for it, time does not just “appear”. We all have the same 24 hours in a day-blocking out time for you is not only important for your health but also in setting an example of your importance to your family, friends and collegues.
  4. Post pictures of yourself or a fitness and health example of what you would like to achieve as a reminder and motivator. You can also make a vision board to inspire you. Pictures and images translate energy to us subconsciously. If you intend something to happen and then support your efforts with energetic triggers such as a vision board- you will get there faster.
  5. Stock up on fruits and veggies for snacks and make them VISIBLE and AVAILABLE in your refrigerator. If you don’t see it immediately, you will forget it’s there! Make them finger foods at your disposal.
  6. Drink water! The body converts fat into energy and releases fat IN WATER. Your body fights disease and toxins in water. All of your body’s functions have to happen in water. If you are dehydrated, you are slowing down your body’s ability to change. Drink at least 4-6, 10 oz glasses or bottles a day.
  7. Get your 7-8 hours of sleep EVERY night. When your body is stressed and not completely rested, your cortisol levels increase and the body holds onto fat as well. Your body changes ” in rest”, not in work. When you sleep less you also overeat. Your body needs energy so you think food will satisfy that and it doesn’t. Not getting enough sleep can sabotage a weight loss plan.
  8. Add resistance training to your workout plan. This is your long term investment for strong bones and a healthy metabolism. You increase your resting metabolism ONLY by adding lean muscle. Fat is inactive tissue and does not need energy. Muscle requires energy and also helps get that sleek, sexy, tight look in your body.
  9. Use a heart rate monitor when doing cardio. This should be one of the most important tools you use. If you are doing cardio without a heart rate monitor- how do you know if you are being effective and efficient? How else can you tell when it’s time to increase your intensity? Why waist time and plateau? I recommend and carry the Polar F6.
  10. Read labels. Know what you are eating. Read the ingredients- do you know what everything is? The more natural and clean you can eat- the better you will look and feel.

My Mom is a Superstar!

December 12, 2007


We just completed the Group 90 Day Health and Body Makeover Program and she made the most improvements among the group!!!

Now you may think that because she’s my mother that this was easy for her. We didn’t talk about exercise or food any other time than on the call once a week. My mother has
proclaimed in the past “I will never run“.

She ate her words. And I didn’t ever tell her to!

My mother now runs 5-6 times a week for 30-40 minutes and stays
in her heart rate zone most of the time. She even runs in the house if it’s too cold in PA for her to do it outside. She claims ” this watch ( HR Monitor) makes me run!” And it’s only taken 10 years. I have been a trainer for over 10 years. Every year I go home and train, educate and suggest. I have hired them 3 different personal trainers to come to the house. The first one left which is why I had to hire #2 and then #3.

My parents are normal/healthy weight. They are not overweight or obese by any means but of course I want them to age well and be around as long as possible. They have always agreed and desired to be more fit and so it was mom’s turn to get involved with the 90 Day Health and Body Makeover this year.

She hasn’t recalculated yet but just the fact that she now runs when she said she would never and that she commits to over 30 min at least 5 days a week to exercise consistently is a MAJOR accomplishment.

She even asked herself if her schedule was the right thing for HER on a given day.  What I mean by that is Mom gives her time and attention to everyone.  However, she doesn’t give it to herself as often.  But now she admitted to doing what was right for her, not everyone else and that’s a great step for Val to take care of herself first!

Good job Mom! Love you!! Can’t wait to help you keep up the progress and get to the next goal!

7 Basics About Nutrition

November 6, 2007

1.      Eat a variety of foods.


Eat plenty of fruits and vegetables every day. 

Eat different types of starches with your meals. 

Eat more high fiber foods and less salty foods.

Try new foods.


2.                Balance the food you eat with physical activity – maintain or improve your weight.


Be at a healthy weight.  Your weight goal should be one that you can maintain without much trouble

If you have trouble getting to your healthy weight or staying there, talk to a dietitian.

Every day do activities that move your body – walking, sweeping, gardening, playing.

Be active at least 30 minutes most days.  Three 10 minute periods of activity work best for some.


3.               Choose a diet with plenty of grain products, vegetables and fruits.


Try new types of whole-grain breads and breakfast cereals.


4.              Choose a diet low in fat, saturated fat and cholesterol.


Prepare meat with less fat or no fat.  Bake, broil, roast, grill or boil meats instead of frying.

Have a meatless meal one or twice a week.

Choose fried or high-fat foods only 1-3 times a week.

Drink nonfat or low-fat milk


5.             Choose a diet moderate in sugar.


Avoid regular soft drinks.  One can has 9 teaspoons of sugar….

Choose water or diet soft drinks.


6.               Choose a diet moderate in salt and sodium.


            Most Americans consume more sodium than is needed. The Nutrition Facts Label lists a Daily Value of 2,400 mg per day for sodium [2,400 mg sodium per day is contained in 6 grams of sodium chloride (salt)]. In household measures, one level teaspoon of salt provides about 2,300 milligrams of sodium.

Most people consume more than this amount.


7.           If you drink alcoholic beverages, do so in moderation.


            Alcoholic beverages supply calories but few or no nutrients.

High Cholesterol and Low Cholesterol Foods

November 4, 2007

Which foods have the most Cholesterol?


Cholesterol is produced in the liver; therefore all animal food products contain some cholesterol.


How much cholesterol should you have each day?


If there is a history of high cholesterol, consume less than 200 mg per day.

If there is not a history of high cholesterol the American Heart Association recommends no more that 300 mg per day. A product is considered low in Cholesterol when it has less that 20 mg per serving.


Liver                                            410 mg per 3 – ounce portion                     

Egg Yolk                                     212 mg per 1 yolk

Regular Ground Beef                74 mg per 3 ounces

Chicken Breast                          71 mg per 3 ounces             

Whole Milk                                  33 mg per 1 cup


Which foods have the least amount of Cholesterol and Saturated Fat?


All fruits and vegetables have zero cholesterol and little to no saturated fat.

Nuts also have zero cholesterol, however, they do have saturated fat. Saturated fat increases blood cholesterol. Therefore, choose foods with low saturated fat.


Dietary Fiber – How much is enough?


Total fiber intake should be 20-35 grams per day for adults.  Soluble fiber sources include oats, legumes, fruit pectin, psyllium and certain gums.  Fiber acts like a sponge and helps to pull LDL cholesterol, also known as bad cholesterol, out of your system so that it is not absorbed into the blood.  This factor may be involved in the association between fiber intake and decreased incidence of Coronary Artery Disease and death.


Sources of High Fiber


All Bran Cereal          10 g per ½ cup               Bran Buds Cereal          12 g per 1/3 cup

Split Peas                   16.3 g per ½ cup           Black Beans                   15.0 g per 1 cup

Pinto Beans               14.0 g per 1 cup            Lentils                              15.6 g per 1 cup

Pear with Skin            6.0 g per 1 large            Apple with Skin               2.8 g per 1 small

Banana                       2.2 g per 1 small            Turnip, Cooked               4.8 g per ½ cup

Broccoli                      2.3 g per 1 cup               Sweet Potato                  3.0g per ½ cup